Every now and then we find ourselves in a spot where we are not happy with where we are and are also unsure of where we want to go. It may be on a job, in a relationship or just with personal happiness in general. Regardless, of what part of your life there is one element that is common among them all: you are the person that can change it.
What does this look like in a unhealthy relationship? You cannot change a person but you are in control of whether you stay with someone or deal with others that don't choose to value you or see you for who you truly are. You control who gets to come in and out of your personal space. The first step is to strop making excuses for why others make the choices they make. It is not for you to justify or explain why others can make you a lower priority or disrespect you. It is for you to choose to be your most authentic self and only allow those you support and respect you into your inner circle.
Since you don't get to make excuses for others, you also don't get to blame others for your poor choices in relationships, for staying on a job that doesn't make you happy or for why you haven't changed your life to be happier. Life is a precious gift and it is your job to make the best of it.
The wonderful thing about owning your life and choices is that even when you are not the happiest, you can find peace in knowing that you are working towards something better.
It sounds easy to say these things but as I honestly walk through my Job experiences, I have had to review most of the choices I have made in my life. Why did I continue to work in organizations where I felt unappreciated or disrespected? Why am I staying in an unhealthy relationship with someone who has no concept of their faults or a desire to change? Why do you allow people (opposite or same sex) into your personal life that only help perpetuate old unhealthy behaviors? You may very well find yourself in a very new space. Possibly alone and maybe even lonely, confused and/or unsure? But we must remember that change is not a comfortable thing and at the end of the day we will either find ourselves in a better place or empowered to make more changes as we continue to strive for the life God has planned for us Jeremiah 29:11 - plans to give us hope and a future and to do us no harm).
TLKW
